Tempting as it is to dive straight into searching for your date, take the time to really polish your dating profile. You wouldn't head out for a night on the tiles without spending a bit of time making yourself presentable would you? The same principle holds true when it comes to your profile.
If you're sensible, you'll want to make the most of first impressions. You're selling yourself to prospective dates so be positive about who you are and what you're looking for. Being clear about your hopes and position will make people more likely to respond to you after all. At the same time, you don't want to lay everything out on a plate for people, so keep something back for when you actually meet and start to get to know each other.
Are Photos Important?
Yes! A photo is a hugely important part of your profile. Time and again it's been shown that profiles that have photos get far more interest, views and contacts than profiles that don't. It's a part of basic human curiosity to want to put a face to the profile name, and it really does help people make that decision to get in touch. It might sound shallow, but it seems to be the way we're wired to some degree - and if nothing else it seems to be a good indicator about how committed to actually dating someone is.
Think of it this way - whether you're looking at people's profiles on a dating site, or browsing items on eBay, you're more likely to take a closer look and possibly even take action on entries that have attractive and accurate photos attached.
Your Profile Shopping List
So here then are a few of the most important things to bear in mind when you're writing your dating profile. Think of this as a short shopping list of things to consider to make your profile stand out from the crowd. Remember that just as you are looking for a date, so are other people. This list can not only make sure that you are memorable for the right reasons, but can also make all the difference between other people seeking you out or responding to your own messages:
- Make sure your photo is recent and flattering, but also that it's accurate so that your date will actually recognise you when you meet up.
- Be positive and constructive about who you are, because people tend not to respond to you if you're being down on yourself.
- Don't rely on a description of your physical features - after all, that's what the photo is for - instead try to capture something of your personality and what makes you tick.
- Don't talk about other people in a negative way. It doesn't matter if you're not sure if there's anyone on the site for you or if you're coming out of a long relationship, being negative is a huge turn-off and won't do you any favours.
- Don't be scared of being an individual - have a look at what other people are writing and then think about how you can make yourself stand out from the crowd without sounding too ridiculous.
- Let yourself be approachable - you might have set up a separate email purely for dating, but make sure that it's one that you can check frequently. Inviting people to contact you can be a bit dull, but you can liven that up by asking them to suggest where to go for a date when they contact you. If nothing else it breaks the ice and gets the conversation started.
Nothing is ever guaranteed of course, but following these simple cues really will go a long way to help you make the right impression. Whether it's online or face to face, those first impressions are vital so don't be afraid to come back to your profile over time to edit it.
Practice makes perfect and above all don't forget to have fun in your search for your perfect partner.